May we learn from Robin Williams’ story

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I’d like to think that there are always choices to make. That besides our stories in our mind, stories that make us suffer, life is full of possibilities. Sometimes the pain is too much and we can’t explain it. It becomes our own life. It controls us. What we can do is to share it. Share it through our words, our feelings with people we love. By doing like that we may seen things we never saw. Or maybe not.

I’d like to think that we can make the impossible possible and learn from others’ lives.

May Robin Williams’ sadness and story teach us something important about life, depression and human beings.
It’s not about being right or wrong, it’s not about being selfish or not. It’s about choices. No matter what you choose to be, there’ll always be an impact on your life. Think, choose, create your possibility, become your possibility. Take responsibility for every action.

“I don’t have very much time these days, so I’ll make it quick–like my life. You know, as we come to the end of this phase of our life, we find ourselves trying to remember the good times and trying to forget the bad times, and we find ourselves worring about the future. Start to worry, thinking what am I gonna do, where am I gonna be in ten years? But I say to you, ‘Hey, look at me.’ Please don’t worry so much, ’cause in the end none of us have very long on this earth. Life is fleeting. And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer sky, when the stars are strung across the velvety night, and when a shooting star streaks through the blacknessturning night into day, make a wish, think of me, make your life spectacular. I know I did. I made it, Mom. I’m a grown-up. Thank you.”
Robin Williams, Jack.

 

 

Living in Switzerland, rediscovering home

 

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Living in London is great. You have access to amazing possibilities and opportunities. Your life is intense, mad, inspiring.

There might be thousands of reasons why you decided to move. However, when you have the chance to go home and spend some time where you grew up and everything started, it’s always a great experience of love and admiration. You end up appreciating more the place that before leaving was so boring you could see only drawback.

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I used to live in Switzerland where I spent most of the time. In Switzerland I went to school and developed my passions for music, nature, yoga and art. I always thought it was a boring place, where nothing happens.

On my holiday, this year I went back home to visit my family and guess what, I loved it!
Such a lovely experience living those places that are so familiar to me from a different point of view. From a tourist point of view!

I appreciated everything that makes Switzerland a great place to be: the nature, the rhythm, the lifestyle and I ended up being nostalgic. I had a taste of what it means living in Switzerland and of all the changes that happened in the last year.

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I haven’t changed idea as I feel that London is the right place to be for me in my present. However I might have changed idea on what I used to find boring or ‘normal’. The nature is stunning, the small cities and villages are so cute and the rhythm of life is much slower.

No matter how much I love London. Rediscovering my home was great. My home is where I grew up, where my adventure begun, where I feel always safe. That doesn’t mean I’ll never feel safe again anywhere else. That doesn’t mean I’ll never find a second home.

It just means that I still have a place where I can go when I feel I’m lost. My hiding place.

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On my arrival in the UK, my hear was still nostalgic. However, when I opened my London door I knew I was in the right place for my present.

If you want to live visit or live in Switzerland, check out these links: http://www.myswitzerland.com/en-gb/home.html or http://www.lonelyplanet.com/switzerland

 

When less is more

 

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Now I keep saying it. Less is more.

It happened to me to realise how important it is to reconsider priorities in life. It happened to me to appreciate the value of the things that I own and that I keep conquering on a day-to-day basis.
Maybe because by changing country I chose to start a new life and this made me go back to basics.

In the last 10 months I totally transformed my life. I downsized what I thought was essential. I discovered new things that make me extremely happy.

You can read dozens of articles about the importance of owning less. You can even agree with them, embrace this idea. But when you really learn what it means being happy by having less, when you start thinking before buying or collecting things, when you really start asking yourself what you really need; then you have the chance to be incredibly close to what really matters to you.

There’re no rules. I’ve never thought there is a unique way to judge if what you have is ‘too much’. It’s all about being honest with yourself. Everyone should realise what really matters for themselves. What really makes this life a great life.

What happened to me, happened to other people. I managed to make my life easier and simpler although for some aspects much more intense. I learnt the importance of owning less.

To me it’s like giving space to many things I wasn’t really able to see: a real friendship, the possibility of eating in a nice restaurant after saving money for a big event. The possibility of buying the dress I love and which is finally on sale. A pure hug, my free time in a crazy and busy city, a calm and welcoming house when outside everything is noisy. The chance of having the time to express myself, to let my voice say my opinion. The freedom of choosing for once the most expensive wine to celebrate a new job in a foreign country.

Nothing seems to be the same now. And it’s exactly what I wanted to learn. It took me almost a year, one of the most expensive city in the world and my unlimited passion for life.

More attention in our life

“In the end

these things matter most:

How well did you love?

How fully did you live?

How deeply did you let go?”

(Gautama Buddha)

I read these words and I found them extremely powerful. What if we could really bring attention to every action or thought we experience in our life. What if we could really care about quality instead of quantity. We would be able to improve our life, raise the level of our awareness, share more love and be more happy free from expectations. What if our life was just made of moments lived in the present. Episodes that we can remember for their value, the value we give to them and the value we want to share with the people we love. Episodes that make our present ever more brighter, episodes that are perfect because we just live them without judging them, overestimate them or underestimate them. What if we were able to cultivate our relationships, bring attention and care to them, think outside the box in order to make our relationships extraordinary and wonderful.

 

Can I share the table with you?

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When you have little time to do what you like the most you end up appreciating more all the small things. It might sound boring or predictable but it’s so true!

Most of the time we postpone things. We think that everything we have now will be there in the future. A busy life can be risky because we may forget the importance of taking care of our passions, of what makes us feel alive. On the other hand a busy life gives us the chance to really focus on what we want, to enjoy every single moment, even the smallest thing.

A couple of weeks ago I talked about the importance of having conversations in our daily life, even with strangers. I promised myself I would be less grumpy, more tolerant and glad to meet new people. I promised myself I would take practical actions in order to be in line with my words. What happened last week made me really happy and made me realize how important it is to connect people within our community.

Walking down the Regent’s Canal (please admire my beautiful shot in the sunset) I decided to have a coffee at Ribeira, my favourite bar. The weather was lovely and after my coffee I decided to eat something. I ordered an amazing stake sandwich. As the only available space outside was a big table with a couple and a young woman I decided to ask them if I could share the space with them and I just sat down on my chair.
Actually, I was about to give up and go back home as I don’t like being alone in a table with strangers. Then I thought I could try and just see what would open up. I started chatting with this lovely girl who like me loves the Canal and enjoys spending time there to relax. We talked about our life in London, how it is when you come from another country (she’s Australian) and what we like from this city. We shared our hobbies and passions, advices and tips, contacts and connections. Such a lovely and meaningful chat that lasted 4 hours and by the time I had to go home I thought I had a great afternoon.

In that moment I appreciated the present and the great opportunity to live in a big city where I can meet different and inspiring people every day. I didn’t do anything that was on my ‘To Do List’. I let my plans go and chose to enjoy my day off without feeling obsessed by work or time.

Also, by listening to someone’s point of view and suggestions, I learned how to become more tolerant and open. I wish I could meet a stranger every day and have at least one hour to chat.

Walking down the Canal on my way back home I realized I was very happy. Not only for my new friend but for the ability to stay in the present for once.

We learn to say ‘NO’

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Time after time we learn to say ‘No’. It takes time and for some people this represents a big step towards freedom and happiness. You might have many reasons why you don’t like saying ‘No’:

1. You want to be accepted and loved by your friends, the people you love, the people around you

2. You want more and more. You’re driven by fears and you’re afraid to lose many opportunities if you decide to exclude some of them

3. Unable to take decisions

4. You want to avoid responsibility

5. You’re scared that you will end up saying ‘Yes’, so what’s the point to start from a weak ‘No’?

So many reasons can jump into your heads. They can make you weaker and scared. The truth is that being able to say ‘No’ sometimes is necessary in order to respect what you really want.

You might think that you want to spend some time with your friends. You might think you want to pursue one specific goal. But then if you go deeper you discover that the reason why you would like to say ‘Yes’ to these things is just because you want to avoid to say ‘No’. It’s simple, clear. If you listen to yourself, you definitely know what you want in a specific moment.
I’m not saying you should avoid friends or duties. Absolutely not! Relationships are so important. The roots of our lives.Sometimes we say ‘Yes’ to things although we’d like to say ‘No’ because behind everything love is driving our actions. In those cases we decide on purpose to put ourselves aside and stand for something/someone who is really important to us.

What I always try to do is to really follow my insight. Try to understand what drives me, what makes me feel good without affecting the people I love. I think that this is a journey that lasts a lifetime. You may decide to feel guilty for the rest of your lives just because once you decided to say ‘No’. You may tend to think that this kind of behavior is going to reward you in the future. The fact is that what really exists right now is the present. You can’t predict how the future will be. Things happen. They happen no matter what you do or say. The actions we take in our present that make our episodes different, valuable.

We can decide now to act instead of reacting. We can decide now to take responsibility and be able to say ‘No’. We learn to say ‘No’. We learn to be more connected to ourselves, feed our souls, our friends, the people we love.

 

Travelling alone. New possibilities

 

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If I can choose. I choose the overground in London to travel. It seems that people are less stressed. The tube is a concentrate of pressed bodies in the crowd. People grumble and they are extremely grumpy. I’m one of them most of the time.
On the overground on the other hand, it seems that the atmosphere is slightly different. I took a picture of people waiting for the upcoming train and when I looked at it I realised how we are individualistic rather than being in a community. People wait and are always in a rush but also when they have these 3-4 minutes that could be used to create an interesting conversation with a stranger they just end up staring at their iphones. It’s so sad. And me too, I was staring at my iphone waiting for an important email which obviously was not that important. I grabbed the phone and took this picture and promised to myself I’m going to try in the next few weeks to interact with people.
What stops us to talk to each other? In the end, we’re just made of the same ideas and problems and frenzies.
What if we had more interactions in our daily life?
We could even develop new ideas, change our state of mind, become a better person, challenge ourselves.

For this reason, I think we could invent something in order to make sure that there is more socialization between strangers, a more community sense that could help us to live better or at least have more possibilities to share with other people. Travelers like us who have the same issues, who struggle for the same things, who have probably the same dreams.

 

Great artistic night at Looking Glass in Shoreditch

Great night last night at the cocktail bar Looking Glass in Shoreditch. On Monday night Looking Glass becomes an amazing and charming venue for Open Mic Nights.

So many interesting and international artists sang and performed and looking at them, expressing their life, it was such an enjoyable moment.
I ended up loving more this city which is giving opportunities to artists. Because, in the end, art needs to be shared. It needs a welcoming and protected space. It needs to be appreciated. No matter what kind of music artists are playing.

There was such a great silence which surprised me and I can say some tracks moved me as they were so true, so passionate.
The night is promoted and organized but the amazing Nate James who also sang a couple of songs and reminded us what a great voice he’s got.

Here you can find the link of the cocktail bar. I’d love to sing there… who knows… maybe one day.

 

http://www.lookingglasslondon.co.uk/

David Lynch Photography

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There’s something magic in David Lynch’s photography. His exhibition at the Photographers’ Gallery is intriguing, beautiful. I’m not really an expert of photography but from what I’ve seen in his images, the american film director with his black and white pictures, is able to tell you great and inspiring stories.
His compositions take you to mysterious and enigmatic places where time disappears. The main subjects of the exhibition are old factories, industrial buildings and abandoned estates. No colors, no people, no shadows in the background. The snapshots which have been put together in small compositions they create a story and when you look at them it seems to know what’s the story behind them.
You can feel yourself involved in the picture and although some details may appear too simple and or far from the normal criteria which defines esthetics, you end up enjoying the silence and the incredible charm which shine through their artworks.

I would say that his pictures are just mirrors of his incredible and eclectic life. A life made by different arts, different ways of interpret beauty and reality. ‘The Factory Photographs’ is a beautiful and fulfilling exhibition which needs to be seen and appreciated. For more information you can visit this link. http://www.timeout.com/london/art/david-lynch-the-factory-photographs